A Father’s Love


In the movie, Gladiator, set in the second century A.D., the hero is a warrior from Spain called Maximus. He is the commander of the Roman armies, a general loved by his men and by the aging emperor Marcus Aurelius. Before his death, Marcus Aurelius informs Maximus of his intention to nominate Maximus to be the next Emperor and then says: “You are the son I should have had . . . But . . . a fond old man, who loves you more than he can say, begs you to at least think about what he has said tonight.” Before he leaves Maximus says to Marcus Aurelius: “You have always been my father.”

In the next scene, the Emperor’s foul son Commodus visits with his father, learning of his father’s plan to make Maximus emperor in his place. His eyes are red with weeping. He sits head down, at the foot of Marcus’ bed and speaks to his father. “I search the faces of the Gods for ways to please you . . . to make you proud . . . and I can never do it. One kind word—one full hug where you pressed me to your chest and held me tight—would have been like the sun on my heart for a thousand years . . . What is it in me you hate so much? My eyes are your eyes. My hands are your hands. All I have ever wanted was to live up to you. Caesar. Father.”

Commodus, then, stands. He is holding the scroll denoting Marcus’ intention to nominate Maximus as Emperor to the Senate. Commodus cannot control his tears. He says to his father: “Why does Maximus deserve what I could never have? —Why do you love his eyes over mine? —I would butcher the whole world—if you would only love me . . .”

Hear the anguish and the hurt in that last sentence: “if you would only love me.”

One of the great cries of the human heart is to be loved, especially by our fathers.

I am so very thankful that I experienced the love of my Father. He was an affirmer. He was the consummate encourager—to me, to my brothers and sisters, and to everyone he met. My Daddy could make anyone feel better about themselves. He was known for his service—to me, to our church, and to our community. He gave of his time, his resources, his money, his name. He was a man that would spend time with you. I remember many occasions when I was playing a ballgame, he was always there. Then, in college days, playing a tennis match at a far away college, I would see my Daddy ambling toward the courts. He was present to encourage.

I resonate with the words of Michael Jordan when asked by columnist Bob Greene, “Why do you want your father to be in the stands during a game?” Jordan replied, “When he’s there, I know I have at least one fan.”

My Daddy loved me

Without love, especially a father’s love, we will not be emotionally stable. We may even struggle to function in society—in marriage, in the workplace, and with friendships. Study after study has proven the importance of a loving father to keep children out of crime, from having illegitimate children. A father’s love communicates that we are accepted, we belong, we are needed, and we are valuable.

My Dad was not perfect. Yours probably isn’t either. He may have caused you pain. He may have been irresponsible. He may have been a workaholic who didn’t have time for you. But he is still to be honored and appreciated if for no other reason than he is your father. So affirm him. Forgive him, if needed. If he is still alive, stay in touch, stay connected. And, most importantly, tell him you love him. Chuck Swindoll has said, “Dad is not perfect; he would be the first to admit it. Nor is he infallible, much to his own disappointment. Nor altogether fair . . . nor always right. But there’s one thing he is—always—he is your dad . . . the only one you’ll ever have. Take it from me, there’s only one thing he needs . . . to hear you say, ‘Dad, I love you.’ That’s the best gift you can give. Nothing you can buy will bring him anywhere near the satisfaction that four-word gift will provide. ‘Dad, I love you.’”

Two of the best gifts in life are the love of a father and the love of a child. Cherish them both.


Did you know that if we practiced love our relationships would be stronger, our jobs would be more meaningful, and our ailments would be fewer? Earlier this year I wrote an encouraging book on love called Chapter 13: The Excellence of Love. The book gets its title from perhaps the greatest statement ever made on love in 1 Corinthians 13. This book provides a guide to love, and, if practiced, it will make us well and whole. Click here to claim your copy.


About Rick Ezell

I am a husband, father, pastor, and writer. This blog is about shaping character, transforming church, and impacting culture. I believe that if one defines their moments then their moments will determine their character and their character will influence their world. I write on personal development, church leadership, and our changing culture. I also write about the resources I am developing and the books I am writing. My goal is to create challenging, relevant, and inspiring content that will help you be a better person, the church be a better parish, and the world a better place. If you are interested in those things, this blog is for you. I have served the church my entire career as a student minister and senior pastor. I studied at Samford University, Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary, Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, and Northern Baptist Theological Seminary (eventually I will get it). I have written eight books. My most recent ones are Chapter 13: The Excellence of Love and Soul Therapy: The Healing Words of Psalm 23. Both are available as eBooks. I have written over 1000 articles for various local, regional, and national publications. I have been married to Cindy for thirty-three years. We have one wonderful daughter. We live in Greenville, SC. In my free time, I enjoy writing, reading, running, tennis, and golf. You can contact me via email or follow me on Twitter or Facebook. This is my personal blog. The opinions I express here do not necessarily represent those of my employer. The information I provide is on an as-is basis. I make no representations as to accuracy, completeness, correctness, suitability, or validity of any information on this blog and will not be liable for any errors, omissions, or delays in this information or any losses, injuries, or damages arising from its use.
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