Martin Seligman, the father of positive psychology, theorizes that 60% of happiness is determined by our genetics and environment, the remaining 40% is up to us. He further suggests that happy people have habits one can introduce into their everyday life. Joyful folk has certain inclinations that add to their pursuit of meaning—and motivate them along the way.
Here are a few habits that lead to happiness.
Put others before self.
The acrostic JOY is Jesus first, Others second, Yourself last. Happy people place Jesus and others first. Putting others before one’s self does not come naturally. We need to be intentional and learn to put others first.
Place character before conformity.
Happy people are men and women of character. They are trustworthy, consistent, and dependable. Their actions match their words. They keep their promises. Happy people have nothing to hide and nothing to fear.
Put we before me.
Happy people are the ultimate team players. They know their role. They work well with others. They learn to cooperate and to contribute. And they are considerate.
Place cause before comfort.
Happy people know the best us of their time is to invest in that which is bigger than themselves. That which will last for eternity. They are willing to take on dangerous assignments, expose themselves to dangerous jobs because the mission is worth it.
Place risk before reward.
We have a saying: “Go big or go home.” Happy people go big. They take the risk; they make the gamble. They step out of their comfort zones.
There you have it, the habits of happiness. How would you rate yourself on each of these habits?
Seligman spoke of three kinds of happy lives: pleasant (only seeking pleasures), engaged (investing in work or children), and meaningful (living for something bigger than yourself). Ultimate happiness comes in giving ourselves to something larger than ourselves.
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